Why get coaching?

One of the biggest reasons people seek coaching is for help in their relationships. Whether it’s a marriage where it’s becoming more difficult to connect…or a work situation where communication has shut down…or a family with old unhealed wounds that seem to get re-opened frequently, relationship stress can be very painful! Typically, we choose to avoid conflict, often by putting up walls,  communicating minimally, and distancing. Is this happening for you?

Most people lack skills in “emotional self-regulation” – the ability to take care of oneself emotionally. Without those skills, we will typically “act out” our feelings rather than express them to ourselves and others. Acting out can be as subtle as an angry expression on my face, or might take the form of coldly criticizing someone, or be as blatant as yelling an insult.

What is the alternative?

  • Taking some slow, calming, deep breaths while focusing on your feelings
  • Acknowledging to myself when I feel angry, upset, fearful, and exploring what need or needs of mine aren’t being met (this one step has been proven to lower stress levels significantly!)
  • Taking care of myself by meeting my need another way
  • Asking another person to just listen

In a coaching session, first you’ll receive deep listening and empathy for the painful situation you’re in. Next, you’ll learn and practice self-regulation skills. As you become accustomed to slowing your breathing, you will have the opportunity to receive intuitive guidance from your own heart. You will learn the skills of giving empathy to yourself, and to other people, even when you are in the midst of a disagreement, and without having to agree with them. You’ll have an opportunity to do role-plays in which you try on seeing the world through another’s perspective. The result: improved communication and greater ease in your relationships!

Would you like to explore further? Call or email me to book a time for your FREE one-hour consultation, in person or by phone. If you choose in-person, you are invited to have a cup of tea or coffee with me at my home office. 828-545-9681.

 

The Connection Practice at the Purpose Collective!

This series of classes will be held at The Purpose Collective, 101 Stone Ridge Blvd., N. Asheville.

Cathy Holt has taught nonviolent communication for over 15 years. She is a certified teacher and coach of the Connection Practice, and a certified HeartMath® coach.

1. The Connection Practice: Empathy & Insight for Healthier Relationships – Sunday, August 19, 3-6pm

  • Do you want more heart-based communication skills?
  • Would you like a way to self-regulate your emotions and behaviors to lower stress and increase resilience?
  • Want access to your intuitive intelligence?

This experiential, interactive class, firmly based in heart and brain science, helps deepen our connection with the hearts of others. Please pre-register by August 17.

2. The Heart of Empathy: Giving and Receiving Empathy through Feelings & Needs – Sunday, September 30, 3-6pm

  •  What empathy is…and isn’t
  •  Replacing judgments with the language of feelings & needs
  •  How empathy for self and others decreases everyone’s stress

3. Gratitude, the Heart, and Heart Insights – October 14, 3-6pm

  • How gratitude makes us happy
  • Heart breathing and Quick Coherence
  • How heart insights can improve communication and relationships

Pre-registration via Eventbrite, please see https://www.facebook.com/pg/heartspeakpeace/events/ or by emailing cathyfholt@gmail.com. Suggested donation: $20-45 per class. Paying the higher amount enables scholarships to those in need. For those with some background in nonviolent communication, each class can stand alone.

The Connection Practice at Unity of the Blue Ridge 

2041 Old Fanning Bridge Rd., Mills River, NC

Date: Sunday, Oct. 28

Time: 1:30-4:30 pm

Donation: Love Offering

Want help with difficult communications? Hoping to heal a troubled relationship? This highly experiential 3-hour class will give you the tools you need!

“Very heart-centered, practical, supportive…an empathetic and safe space to dive deep and open the heart!”                         – Rev. Christy Corna

“I experienced support in the challenging process of replacing old patterns with new skills, and the gift of insight.”               –  Michelle Smith

“…valuable insights from my own heart, that changed my relationship to myself and my family. Powerful and transformative life-changing experience!” – Kathy Austin

Please pre-register by Oct. 20 by emailing: cathyfholt@gmail.com